Judgement, jealousy and ridicule.. who does it and why does it happen? What causes incredible people to fall short of the judgement trap? Women and mothers of affluence, powerful men…and even innocent children?
This is a question I’ve asked myself throughout the last 43 years of my life..
All at different stages, some easy, and others much harder to comprehend…but it has always come down to this in my opinion.
In my opinion; the act of judgment is an act of pride.
It involves looking to our own store of knowledge, putting together a few facts, figures or fancies, and coming up with some sort of answer or solution to a given problem or situation.
All too often it is the wrong solution or answer, and because of pride, we refuse to correct course. Judging others is an act of monumental pride – enormous pride, stupendous pride, galling, astonishing, fantastic pride.
This reason should be understood.
When you render judgment on another, you have taken upon yourself an awesome responsibility for making the correct judgment. Because, after all, your judgment is not necessary.
All things, big and small, invite your judgment.
The condition of the weather, political matters, the taste of your food, a television program – at every moment of the day, something or other is inviting your judgment of it. And so often, and so willingly, you render it, without being aware of the consequences, without taking care of the responsibilities entailed.
You judge, and then to make matters worse, you believe in your judgment. You’ve looked at the evidence, you’ve made a judgment – it must be right! There couldn’t possibly be any other conclusion to arrive at but the one you’ve chosen, could there?
What you don’t see, don’t understand, is that your judgment leads to suffering – your own suffering. It does not touch the person judged; he or she is free of you and your thoughts and your judgments.
You cannot change their behavior by even a hair’s breadth by your judgment, it’s you that stews and suffers. This is the conclusion I’ve come to know after 43 years of wondering why…and in the end, I’ve come to the conclusion…
“Other people’s opinions are none of my business. As long as I am true, show up everyday and do my very best…it’s their problem, not mine”
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