Can I be Transparent with you? I want to reveal something I’ve never really shared. Hang on tight, because it’s long, deep & juicy. I promise I will make it worth the read, I promise!
So here it goes.
First, can I ask you a question?
Have you ever wanted something so bad, your intentions change because of the desire you have to get it? Well, my entrepreneurial journey started initially for one reason, and one reason only. To never put my daughter in Daycare and to be the primary influence in her life.
The problem was that I had to feed the business woman that was burning inside me…she was HOT. Climbing the corporate ladder was like a drug, and an addiction for success.
You can imagine the ridicule I faced when I decided to make the shift to quit my job so that I can run my own business and raise a family. I faced a lack of support from family, friends, and even Brian.
“It doesn’t work that way”, they said.
“If you want to raise your child and be their primary influence in her life then you reduce your work time and be a Mom. Successful Corporate woman give up most of the Motherly duties to be successful in their jobs, you can’t have both.”
“It’s either one or the other,” they said.
B.S.!!!! “I said, I’ll show them”
This gave me more drive to prove I could do it than a hungry lion waking in the morning to chase the fastest gazelle in the jungle. I was HUNGRY! But to be totally transparent, I lost a lot of friends in the process. It hurt, but added more fuel to my fire.
The first 3 years, I went HARD.
In the first year I replaced my income and retired Brian from his engineering position to join me in building our company and dream life for a new family.
But something happened that I believe, changed the whole course of my mission.
Deep inside I was pissed at people for not supporting or encouraging this radical change. My entrepreneurial journey turned into a search for success, accolades, awards, recognition and fame. Instead, of feeling fulfilled that I could be home with my daughter everyday and earn an income, I found frustration and disillusionment. I didn’t realize this search was actually keeping me from the very thing I sought.
For months, I seethed with envy, watching other business owners and marketers succeed while I spun my wheels. As jealousy turned to resentment, I began to see the world through murky-colored glasses. I found fault with everything these people did.
And for awhile, this feeling consumed me. However, eventually I had to come to grips with reality:
Being jaded and proving others wrong was doing me absolutely no good.
I didn’t become a better marketer.
I didn’t become a better mother or wife.
I didn’t become famous.
I didn’t make any more money
After years of feeling this way, I decided to make a change: Instead of letting external factors dictate my success, I would focus on what I could control:
Here are my 4 tips on how to gain control over your attitude:
Tip #1: Focus on passion & your “WHY”, not results.
“Skills Are Cheap, Passions Are Priceless”
At first, nothing changed. I was doing my work, the same as I ever was. But internally, I was changing. Instead of a paycheck or pat on the back, passion was now my most important metric.
If I showed up to my business for love, not accolades, then I had done my job. At least for that day, I’d succeeded. And tomorrow was another day. This released me up from the pressure to perform. I had greater artistic freedom, which made my work a lot more fun.
Here’s what I told myself-
If nobody but me showed up to read my blog posts, I would still write them.
If no one watched my video, I would still shoot them.
If I never got a lead, I would still market my business.
If I never earned a dime, I would still build my company.
Tip #2: Do your best work when nobody’s watching.
I know what you are thinking- “Wait a second. Isn’t that ironic? Aren’t you trying to get us to watch your video’s, work with you or buy your book?”.
But there’s a paradox in the pursuit of fame:
Those who try the hardest to earn others’ attention rarely get it. Conversely, those who scorn the limelight are often the ones dodging the paparazzi.
Of course, this isn’t always the case. But with online marketing and other artistic crafts, I’ve found it to be undeniably accurate. Something interesting happens when you make passion your chief pursuit:
People start to notice your efforts.
The world is desperate for, even envious of, people living purposeful lives that are free from fear. We are all inspired by those brave enough to shirk the trappings of fame and do work that matters.
What happens every time you see a film or read a book about some hero who risks it all to complete a quest that matters?
You’re inspired. Captivated, even.
When I began build my business for passion, at first nobody seemed to care. But I kept at it, kept doing the best work I could no matter how many (or how few) paid attention. And slowly over time, people took notice.
Because there is something attractive & SEXY about passion.
Tip #3: The less you care about your audience’s affections, the more your audience will be affected by your work.
Don’t do it for the money I’ve talked to dozens of successful marketers, authors, and entrepreneurs about why they do what they do. And they’ve all told me essentially the same thing: It’s not about the money.
Amazon founder, Jeff Bezos once said:
“Money was never a big motivation for me, except as a way to keep score. The real excitement is playing the game. If you’re setting out to master a craft, to play your own game, maybe you hope to someday become famous or rich. But if you were to dig a little deeper, you might find that such a goal isn’t what you’re really in search of.”
Of course, there’s nothing inherently wrong with money or the acquisition of it. Nor is there anything immoral about wanting a large audience or a best-selling book. It’s just that those things aren’t enough to fulfill you.
Because what happens when-
There are days when nobody shows up to watch your work, or experience your art?
Do you still continue?
Not if it’s about the rewards.
Passion and creation is a process, not a product. Our work is more than what we do or make. It’s the entirety of effort that goes into each step of the process. In a sense, it’s what we don’t see.
So when you’re sweating and bleeding and loving every minute of it, remember:
This is the reward.
What, do you do, then, when you create something you’re proud of and people don’t appreciate it?
Do you quit?
Give up because your work isn’t “relevant”?
Or do you push forward, remembering that history’s greatest artists were often misunderstood by contemporaries? The most memorable creations are rarely comprehended by the masses — at first.
This is what makes passion so attractive.
It exceeds our expectations and sometimes offends our sensibilities. Take heart, though. Some day, someone will get it. And they will be transformed. Until then, you must learn to love the work.
Tip #4: Respect the process, and results will come.
Isn’t it ironic? You know, the Greeks didn’t write obituaries. They only asked one question after a man died: “Did he have passion?”
When we set sail in search of our life’s work, this is what we must seek:
Not fame or rewards or riches, but a willingness to quietly do our work, trusting the sowing-and-reaping nature of life. Remembering that good things come in time if we do our jobs well.
So where does that leave us? Where, practically, can you go from here? Strive to do your work with gratitude and generosity. Because this part is not you paying your dues or delaying gratification until payday. This is the best it gets.
The grind is the reward.
And if you aren’t okay with that, then quit now. Because, it’s only once you’ve mastered this mindset that you’ll have any shot at making it, at getting rich and famous.
What this meant for me was admitting that building online businesses, being with my family and branding was my passion, something I couldn’t not do. And truth be told, when I was doing it for the wrong reasons, I knew it.
Constantly anxious and uneasy, I worked with apprehension. It felt unnatural.
Only when I surrendered to the work, did I find peace — and my audience. And maybe as you chase your passion, you’ll make a similar discovery and allow passion to drive you over success.
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